• CREATING A SAFE CONTAINER -

RELATING AGREEMENTS

1. HONOUR SELF

  • Take care of yourself and your own experience.

  • Honour your own boundaries.

  • Find the edge where you can safely practice for any given practice.

2. HONOUR ONE ANOTHER

  • Hold one another with positive regard.

  • Assume the best of each other.

  • Allow each other to have a safe personal space.

  • Honour each other’s boundaries and processes.

3. NO COACHING WITHOUT PERMISSION

  • Feedback is an incredibly important part of this work, but if it’s given without permission or out of the context of a led practice, it can be painful because people may not be ready to hear it.

  • If you have feedback ask, “I have some feedback, would you like to hear it?” If the other person gives you permission, then share it with open-hearted clarity. This is an extension of Agreement #2.

  • If you’re on the receiving end of this request, and you aren’t feeling open to feedback, you can say, “Not now,” “Maybe later,” or flat out, “No. I don’t want feedback right now.”

4. CONFIDENTIALITY

  • This is a very important agreement because this is a contained program and it will allow us to have the deepest and safest container possible.

  • Hold everything that happens and everyone participating in this program as confidential.

  • You are welcome to share your own experience with others outside of the program.

5. POWER

  • This is the most important agreement of them all.

  • The power of this program is created by you.

  • This is an interactive program and we will be creating it with you, but it’s important that you take ownership of your experience, rather than passively consuming the material.

  • For Example: Ask the questions that you need to be answered. Ask for help when you need it.

  • This agreement is in service of creating the reality that you want to experience most, especially in relationship.

  • You will get as much out of this program as you put into it.